CAN STEPPARENTS ADOPT WITHOUT THE BIO PARENT’S PERMISSION?

Adoption, Child Abandonment, child custody, Family Law, Stepparent Adoption

Throughout the State of Ohio there are many cases where a stepparent is caring for a minor child in place of a biological parent with little to no help from the biological parent.  In some cases, the absent parent may owe extensive outstanding arrears for child support. In other cases, there may not be any prior court orders or parentage is unknown.  Most courts will require at least some notice of adoption to go out to the parent whose rights may be terminated but not all circumstances require a parent to give consent for the adoption.

In all cases of adoption in Ohio the mother of the minor child must be served with statutory notice of the adoption so that she is given an opportunity to appear if she wishes to contest the adoption. A father must be given notice of an adoption proceeding if prior to the date the petition was filed, it was determined by a court proceeding (such as a child custody case) or administrative proceeding (such as child support) that he has a parent and child relationship with the minor. Fathers in Ohio can protect their statutory right to receive notice of an adoption by filing into the putative father’s registry or by signing their minor child’s birth certificate and/or acknowledgment of paternity. Pursuant to Ohio Revised Code 3107.061 a man who has sexual intercourse with a woman is considered to already be on notice that if a child is born as a result and the man is the putative father, the child may be adopted without his consent if the putative father fails to register as the minor’s putative father with the Ohio putative father registry. In cases where a father is not registered and his whereabouts are unknown it is likely a putative father may not learn of an adoption at all.

Even when parents are required to receive the proper statutory notice of their minor child’s adoption, their consent to the adoption may not be necessary despite their best arguments against the adoption. If the court finds that a putative father has willfully abandoned or failed to care for and support the minor child, then the minor child may be adopted without the consent of the father. Consent to an adoption is also not required if it is alleged in the adoption petition and the court finds by clear and convincing evidence that either parent has failed without justifiable cause to provide more than “de minimis” contact with the minor or to provide for the maintenance and support of the minor for a period of at least one year immediately preceding the filing of the adoption petition or placement. This means that an Ohio parent who has not provided de minimis contact and support for at least one year in compliance with a court order, such as child support, is at risk of having their parental rights terminated against their wishes and without their consent.

Other situations exist under Ohio law where consent for an adoption is not required by the biological parent.  A putative father’s consent for adoption is not necessary if he has not signed the registry or if it is later found he is not the father of the minor. Consent for adoption by a putative father who has signed the registry may not be necessary if the court finds that he has willfully abandoned the mother of the minor during her pregnancy and up to the time of her surrender of the minor or placement of the minor for adoption. Consent for adoption is also not necessary if a parent is declared incompetent or if a parent has failed to respond in writing to an adoption petition after being properly notified of the proceedings.  The court will not require consent for adoption from a guardian, custodian or other party who merely has temporary custody of a minor child.

When a stepparent adoption is granted the biological parent’s rights are permanently terminated. In the event of a Divorce, the adopting stepparent will hold the same rights of a biological parent in making claims for child custody and in payment of child support.

7 WAYS TO INCREASE YOUR CHANCES FOR SHARED CUSTODY AND TO KEEP SHARED CUSTODY

child custody, Family Law

Parents who find themselves in the middle of custody disputes can take steps to improve their chances for shared custody at no extra cost to their case. Where shared parenting is already in place, parents can take steps to keep their shared parenting plan by preventing obstacles that might cause a change in circumstances. The following tips can be utilized by parents in all settings and especially ones who wish to maintain shared parenting after a breakup or divorce.

    • Be On Time Always. Everyone’s time is precious. Parents plan their day based on school schedules, work schedules, activity schedules and medical appointments. When something happens to throw a wrench into the day a parent must quickly adjust their plans. These adjustments can easily affect the children and their other parent. Chronic lateness can lead to negative outcomes such as missed medical appointments or extracurricular activities and anxiety. A chronically late parent can be certain the other parent is keeping a log of the excuses to present to the court given the opportunity. Occasionally, events may occur which put that wrench into the day, events should not occur frequently where it is causing everyone to make ongoing adjustments and creating chaos.
    • Keep A Regular Schedule For Parenting Time. Repeated changes or requests for changes to the parenting schedule for no other reason than that parent’s own convenience or lack of planning is an issue for everyone, including the children. Changes to the parenting schedule means everyone must change plans to accommodate the new schedule. While occasional changes are necessary it is best to keep a regular routine and schedule that both parents and the children can easily follow. The bottom line is that courts like schedules. Schedules show stability and consistency, especially for young children. There are circumstances where some parents have work schedules which are erratic. For parents with erratic work schedules, there is no magic answer except to try to be as predictable as possible for the children. Where older children are involved, they can be included in family calendars and/or charts to help everyone stay organized.
    • Be Organized. There are several online calendar apps such as Google Calendar that can be shared with other users. Sharing a calendar app allows parents to record appointments for the children in a place that both parents can be made aware of upcoming appointments, activities and special events. For parents who have more complex needs, there online co-parenting apps such as Appclose and Our Family Wizard which not only allow parents to share calendars they are also hubs for communication and document sharing. Co-parenting apps are great at helping parties keep a record of communication in an organized date and timestamped manner in case there are questions or there is a discrepancy. Our Family Wizard is accepted by Ohio courts for use by parents to help resolve some of the organizational issues between parents. Some apps such as Our Family Wizard do have an annual fee.
    • Accept that Your Ex Isn’t You. The children’s clothes may not exactly match, their hair is not combed normally, and they had pizza for breakfast after playing video games on Saturday night. The children may have also even been up a little later than normal. While one parent may have more strict routines, another parent may not follow the same routines or is laxer in their daily/weekend routines. Many children are happy even when the stricter routines are not followed, albeit they may not be as perfectly manicured and fed as they would be otherwise. The parent with more strict routines may feel ready to nit pick and tear apart the children’s good time and fun due to the children not having their routines done exactly as before the breakup. The best advice is just don’t do it. Instead, keep a log of concerns. A log of concerns can be used in court to help describe when a parent is acting against the best interest of the children. It is easier to see from a log over time if the concerns are a pattern of behavior, indicative of other issues or maybe the concerns are not valid at all.
    • Be Positive to the Children About Their Other Parent.  Children love both of their parents. Demeaning the children’s other parent to them is demeaning a part of them. Building up the children’s other parent’s talents to them and highlighting the positive ways they resemble their other parent helps to build self-esteem.  Being positive also builds trust. Parents who have a history of negative communication can improve their chances of shared parenting by learning new skills.  Many courts now require parents to attend classes and there are several online shared parenting classes and communication courses available. Some parents prefer to take the classes together and other parents prefer to take them separately. It is always beneficial to learn more positive ways to communicate and any class certificates can be used by parents to show the proactive measures they have taken in their request for shared parenting.
    • Discuss All Relationship and Parental Issues in Private. Discussions can easily be taken out of context or erupt into arguments especially when emotions from a breakup and separation are still very high. The children should never be placed into the position by their parents of taking sides. Taking care to keep communications private can help parents keep an upbeat relationship with their children and help prevent the children from becoming involved in the arguments of the parents. Parents should keep in mind that such arguments may be used against them if the children hear arguments at exchanges or in the presence of their parents which cause them to be upset or anxious. Older children may be given an opportunity to talk to the judge in private if issues are raised concerning negative communications and actions of the parents. Communications about issues related to the relationship or children can be done by text, email, private phone call or in a parenting app. Communications are best done in writing for parents who anticipate litigation concerning custody.
    • Participate in the Children’s School Events, Activities and Appointments. Shared parenting means that both parents will take responsibility for their children to attend important events, activities and appointments which are significant to the children. Parents should have a copy of the children’s school calendars and event calendars handy and they should be knowledgeable about their children’s schedules. Some parents share uniforms or special equipment or they have agreements to supply them separately. Keeping the children’s needs first and foremost is imperative to understanding their best interests. Being knowledgeable about events, even if an event cannot be attended due to work or other obligations, not only helps to show the children how much their parent cares for them, it helps to show the court that the children’s best interests are a top priority. It is strong evidence for any court to consider when a parent is consistently proactive and responsible at maintaining their own involvement in the children’s lives.

When arguments, miscommunication and events arise where parents are at odds and the children are upset it will be very difficult for the court to grant an order of shared parenting and shared custody.  In situations which are highly volatile it is more likely that one parent will be named the residential parent and legal custodian and the other will be granted visitation. Parents who practice good communication, courtesy and respect have better chances for a shared parenting and shared custody.

 

Please contact R. A. Parish Law, LLC (614) 407-0443, raparish@rplawohio.com to learn your legal options for shared parenting and shared custody.  No cost, no obligation 30-minute consultation.

 

When Holiday Despair Outweighs the Holiday Cheer

child custody, Divorce, Family Law

Dealing with high conflict relationships and emotional abuse of any kind can be challenging. For couples without children or grown children it could mean dividing an accumulation of resources and assets which were meant to be used for a comfortable retirement.  For parents, the process can have added difficulty. On the one hand, it’s a matter of protecting children and showing them their value. On the other, separating mothers and fathers worry about child support. Will they be able to survive separate and apart whether paying it or receiving it?

Of course, there is a chance that vindictiveness and parental alienation will rear their ugly head when couples are in the midst of a high-conflict separation. There is a chance of lengthy drawn-out expensive litigation that might gobble up limited resources. The price tag that comes in splitting up, with children, will certainly mean less time with the children and there is always the worry it may result in the children seeing one parent as less favorable than the other.

There is a multitude of reasons one could find him or herself in a high-conflict relationship. It could be as simple as one partner just likes to fight and needs to be right. Alcohol and drugs can also add to already stressful situations. Here are some suggestions to cope with high-conflict situations this holiday season:

    • Seek legal counsel as soon as possible. Find someone who makes you feel comfortable and who understands your wishes.
    • Don’t engage in conversations with your partner that could escalate.
    • Consult with a counselor or spiritual advisor to give yourself an outlet.
    • Gather and keep record of all financials, income, and property ownership.
    • Don’t discuss your situation with anyone. Not everyone is your friend.
    • Try not to react – especially when your partner is looking for a reaction.

Maintaining calm and resisting the urge to fight may seem like a never-ending battle where no matter how much resistance and calmness is practiced it does not prevent an explosion from erupting. An evening may end in argument with the children hiding in their rooms and the parents angry in separate rooms. For couples without children or grown children one of them might even leave to go somewhere else out of spite.

There are all kinds of ways to handle high-conflict situations. Surely, no one should be forced to sit back and take abuse from a narcissistic partner. No doubt finding someone to wage a war on your behalf certainly sounds like a great idea! However, one should proceed with caution. Some lawyers will add to an already combustible situation and watch it explode. Someone with good intentions may prod you into finding legal counsel with strong “bulldog” tendencies which can, in turn, escalate matters beyond any ability to acquire an agreed settlement later. It takes immense courage to escape someone when they’re treating you less than human.  It also takes a viable plan to lessen as much as possible the negative impact of it all in one’s own personal and mental well-being.

Making the decision to end a marriage is one of the most difficult decisions one will make in life. When the cheer from the holidays is outweighed by despair most couples find this is a major sign of a severely damaged relationship that is headed toward a custody battle and/or divorce.  The advice and counsel of an experienced family law attorney is paramount to one’s guidance and understanding of the process in making the difficult decision to end a marriage or relationship with children. Understanding your rights and the process can help you make the best decisions possible for moving forward in a new way of life.

If you are facing divorce and/or child custody issues R.A. Parish Law, LLC is available to help guide you with compassion and skill. No Cost, No Obligation Consultations (614) 407-0443.

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